What Is A Genuine Person?
Signs You're a Truly Genuine Person
My blog is a personal lifestyle blog. And sometimes I struggle with my confidence to be me in every season during my life journey. Aloud without being obnoxious. Or misunderstood in my expression of my authentic self.
Being genuine with myself and others is especially important to me. I have accepted that it is the best part of me. To be authentic regardless of how anyone else feels about my kind of authenticity.
That this topic signifies a genuine person inspires a self-examination of your inner being. Ask yourself how authentic you are to yourself and others.
Do you lie to yourself? Have you lied to yourself? Have you lied to others? Did you answer all these questions honestly?
We can all agree that being fake is a negative thing. No one wants to feel like they’re being played by someone who is acting. Nor does anyone want to be known as someone who doesn’t live true to themselves. But what is a genuine person?
Millennials, who matured in the age of social media. Struggle to pin down this personality trait. And determine whether they possess it or not.
They spend significant amounts of time curating the most share-worthy photos on Instagram. Creating a summarized snapshot of their lives on Facebook. And posting descriptions of themselves on online dating websites.
And as “genuine” as those shared moments may be. There is discernment involved in designing one’s ideal self. Rather than exposing all there is to expose.
In 2002, authenticity researchers Michael Kernis and Brian Goldman. Studied the individual differences of sincere personalities. And characterized authenticity as “the unrestrained operation of one’s true Or core self in daily business.”
To assess whether a person is driven by his or her true sense of self. One must look past the profiles established and into the collection of thoughts. Exchanges and behaviors that fill each day. And while science has yet to map a single path to sincerity. There are some shared traits among people who are genuine and authentic.
Here Are The 6 Signs You Live Life Representing Your True Genuine Self.
You have high self-esteem.
Sincere people, by definition, have a good sense of self-esteem says clinical psychologist Guy Winch, Ph.D., a HuffPost blogger. “Author of Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts.” (“When Does Rejection Hurt Us Most? | Psychology Today”)
“With self-esteem, it’s the ‘Goldilocks’ range. Too much is not good because that’s the narcissism range. “that’s the arrogant, prideful range,” Winch tells The Huffington Post.” (“Be With Eagles Like Friends to Fly High!!!! – LinkedIn”)
“Too little is not good; you want something solid in the middle. Genuine people are those who have solid self-esteem — it’s solid, it’s consistent, it’s not brittle. People who have solid self-esteem are much less defensive about things usually.
They can feel authentic. They can be authentic. Because they’re less worried about the implications of exposing who they are. Because they feel OK about who they are.
Research backs this up. In a 2008 study published in the Journal of Counseling Psychology. U.K.-based researchers investigated the “authentic personality”. And how other traits connect with a person’s sense of living genuinely. They found that people expressed a high sense of authenticity. Also maintained higher levels of self-esteem.
You embrace vulnerability.
The psychological idea and societal structure of inner strength vary dramatically. Many cultures place significant importance on maintaining defensive walls. That hides or minimizes personal weaknesses. And imperfections, to protect oneself from harmful or unpleasant experiences.
Science supports using flexible coping methods to face moments of discomfort. Opening oneself up to fears and failures to learn and grow from them. Rather than shut them out altogether. And it takes an authentic person with a solid foundation of self-esteem. To be able to do the latter.
“The stronger your self-esteem, the more you are able to admit that you’re unsuccessful. Or to receive criticism. And to be able to receive negative feedback without it making you crumble. Winch talks about the importance of maintaining such flexibility.
“You can take on criticism. Negative feedback, something not great about you. Something that you don’t love about yourself, and it doesn’t devastate you. It’s something you can admit. You can hope to work on or just take in, but it doesn’t affect your whole way of thinking about yourself.”
You share your true thoughts, beliefs, and opinions with the world.
Authentic people not only take the time to ponder their perspective on life. And the experiences that led them there. But they easily share this “true self” with others around them. This external expression is consistently described as an extroverted behavior in authenticity research.
But, in a 2010 study published in the Journal of Personality. Wake Forest University psychologist William Fleeson established. Both genuine introverts and extroverts alike. Feel comfortable sharing their thoughts, opinions, and beliefs with the outside world.
“Authenticity is associated with acting highly extroverted.” “Even for those who characterize themselves as introverts,” said Fleeson in a statement.
“Being flexible with who you are is okay. It is not denying or disrespecting who you are. People are often too rigid about how they are and stick with the comfortable and familiar. Adapting to a situation can make you more true to yourself in some circumstances.”
His research also revealed that being genuine. Goes together with being emotionally stable and intellectual.
You give and receive compliments.
Thankfulness flows in two directions: sometimes you give, and sometimes you receive. When it comes to the latter, Winch explains in his Book Emotional First Aid. People With Low Self-Esteem Can Sometimes Struggle with Accepting Compliments.
That’s because they believe those admiring comments come attached to expectations from others. Which results in feelings of stress. Those who are genuine and maintain a solid sense of self-esteem. Don’t view compliments with strings attached.
“You have to be able to see a compliment as just a compliment. And it takes a certain level of authenticity to receive that,” Winch explains. “It’s about being able to take in and also give back in a way that’s unfiltered by all these kinds of other agendas.”
When it comes to expressing gratitude to others. Genuine people follow a similar path of not overthinking it.
“You want to reinforce people,” he said. “It’s merit-based. You’re doing it because it’s deserved. And that comes across when you do it purely. When you’re delighted that somebody did well, and you compliment them.”
You listen — and prefer deep conversations.
Sincere people find it easier to let go of distractions and focus intently on a conversation. Because they are interested in what the other person has to say.
They aren’t constantly checking their smartphone for text messages. Or letting their mind wander off to the day’s to-do list. Everything else falls by the wayside.
According to a 2013 study. Achieved by psychological scientist Erin Heerey at Bangor University in Wales. Others can tell when you are being genuine.
The observational study combined strangers getting to know one another. And monitored their reactions to any smile that was exchanged. — both genuine and polite.
It found that the participants responded much more quickly to genuine smiles. Then polite smiles and viewed genuine smiles as a social reward to be valued.
“When we are authentic people, our self-esteem is strong. We are just much less burdened by agendas and baggage. And then we can have a conversation. That’s about the content of the conversation in a much purer way,” adds Winch.
“When people are authentic. There’s a certain purity to their connections and conversations. (“6 Signs You’re a Truly Genuine Person | HuffPost Life”) and the conversations tend to be more interesting in terms of the content. You can get further, you can discover more, and you can discover more because it’s a much richer conversation.”
You’re driven by an inner voice rather than your surroundings.
One of the key factors of authenticity is knowing who you are. And being comfortable with yourself. It requires taking the time to develop informed ideas about the things you care about. And not blindly adopting them from others around you. It is with this foundation. That you can live those values — stand behind them, represent them, and feel strongly about them.
“When you have thought through what you think, what you feel. What’s important to you? And why it’s important to you, that determines a certain sense of purpose and directive,” says Winch.
“We all have these operational directives. — we don’t articulate them to ourselves. But if we look back on our behavior. And examine what we do, why we do it, and what and why. We can figure out the principles that are driving us.”
People who have looked within to understand why they think. And acting the way they do is clearer about the principles — and purposes that drive their lives, Winch adds. “It makes them proactive rather than reactive.”
CONCLUSION
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Hey, I spent my entire life trying to be something I am not and it did not go well. I am pretty shy and introverted and thought I could never make it in this world without becoming an extrovert. Talk about being dumb. Now I just focus on being in the moment and that is when I am my truest self. Especially around other people.
I know the feeling! I think we do ourselves a disservice when we try to be something that we are not. I am still learning how to be in the moment. Thank you for commenting…